Hello everyone!!
Long time no chat! I hope that all is well and everyone is keeping safe with all of the devastating hurricanes that are taking place in the Florida and the Houston, Texas area; you all are in my prayers….
I wanted to post something that fell heavy on my Spirit tonight. Tonight was my first time attending a single’s ministry “session.” I’ve listened to countless sermons, messages and advice on this single life, but I haven’t physically been to a meeting, workshop or a session regarding the topic of singleness. I was invited by a friend and I decided to go.
At first, things were cool. Various topics were being discussed about relationships, and the do’s and the don’ts. What to look out for and what to run from. Eventually, a game was initiated and various women and men told short stories about their past relationships and things they have gone through in the past; this is where it gets tricky. As I listened to the stories told by mostly women, my heart began to sink. Some of the stories were so outrageous that laughter was shared amongst the room. But what hit me most is that underlying the laughter and the jokes, a spirit of hurt viciously lingered.
I could tell that some of the women sharing their stories were truly still hurting and wanted answers to how to move forward and how to leave the hurt behind. That Spirit of hurt was familiar to me. I remember feeling just like that. I remember feeling a toxic, too much to bare type of hurt. The type of hurt to where you don’t know how you got there and why. The innocent hurt-meaning you truly did not know what you had gotten yourself into. You just knew you loved the person that you later found out never loved you; it leaves you devastated. I saw myself and how I once felt in some of those women.
In that moment, I knew more than discussing any story about past hurt, we needed prayer and for the Holy Ghost to break chains and to give us strength as women for the days to come. Hurt is hard and break up hurt? And heart hurt? Is a special type of hurt. You truly have to be strong in the Lord and lean on Him with everything in you. More than anything, single women need to know that no matter what you’ve been through, God has someone special for you. In the meantime, relax, pray, hang out with friends. Don’t hang out to be “seen” but hang out because you want to. God knows your schedule!!! He will put you and your husband together at the right time.
My short words of advice…….Love and lust can blind us and cut off our discernment so always be in prayer. When we first meet a young man, we should first ask God if he is the “one” and to cut him off if he is not. That way, we won’t waste our time; God will give you immediate signs. Also, should you find yourself in a broken place because a man broke his promise….and left….and moved on…..just breathe. Now let me say this, it’s not going to be easy, but you have got to move on. Meaning don’t stalk his social media and don’t try to stay in contact. Pray….pray and pray some more. It truly takes time to get over someone you were in love with but God is truly a healer!!! Trust me, I know!
And finally, let not our hearts be troubled due to someone’s foolishness towards us. Let us always forgive and move on. God wants to bless us with a husband! But he can’t do this when we are still entertaining the wrong person.
“Laughter can conceal a heavy heart, but when the laughter ends, the grief remains.” Proverbs 14:13 (NLT)
Jesus is Love,
Chelsea
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